One day, as she was wanting directions and I was wanting free exploration, I realized she is the yang to in yin. Balance. Yes, we need to fail forward, and yes, we need direction. To go back to the analogy: Niether approach to swimming in the lake is wrong, nor is either necessarily better. So I have realized that in teaching, I need to get out of the way of the cannon ballers in order to let them learn from their mistakes. But I also need to allow time and space for the toe dippers to ease their way into something new, and maybe even hold a hand now and then.
But then of course, it can be good fun to just push someone in.